• Maya Benberry

How I Stay Motivated

Updated: Sep 25, 2019

I was asked by someone to write about how I stay motivated especially after all the hatred and negativity I get and I must say I get asked this question a lot. So what better place than to answer it here. So let’s get started babes..

I stay motivated because I feel like I have no choice but to be. Ever since I was a kid, I was always different. The only black kid in my dance academy, one of the few minorities in AP/Honor classes. I always got made fun of by my black peers because they felt I was "trying to be white" by being in those classes and participating in the after school activities that I did. At that time, I didn't understand why God would allow me to endure so much hatred when I was just being myself. I mean come on, why bully someone just because they are smart? Oh and not to mention I had big bushy eyebrows and glasses, so I know that didn’t help either. But now that I look back at it, I'm soooo glad that that happened to me.

Being made fun of not only caused me to have thick skin but it also sculpted my way of thinking. Instead of crying about it, I decided to use that hatred and jealousy as motivation. I realized that I couldn't let my "haters" win by dumbing myself down or quitting just because they are making fun of me for something. I own my flaws and accept them.

So every time a troll makes a fake account to talk shit on my Instagram or snapchat, it motivates me and I just laugh it off. Think about it this way, if you got all depressed and changed yourself because someone doesn't like something about you, what does that do for you? Absolutely nothing because you are now living to please someone else instead of yourself. Stop asking for others opinions/acceptance and do whatever the hell you want to do. Be who you want to be. Dress how you want and love who you want, because at the end of the day, we only have ONE LIFE. So ask yourself, do you want to spend it living for others or spend it living for yourself?


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